Two Women Open Up About What It’s Like To Be a Mother When You Have Borderline Personality Disorder

Sasha, a mother-of-two, was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder last year.

She was in a mother and baby unit at the time and was struggling with depression and OCD. While there, she brought up the idea of BPD to the doctors, as she felt like it helped to put a label on what she was feeling.

It turned out they had already written the condition in their notes, but hadn’t brought it up because of the stigma still surrounding BPD. Borderline personality disorder is a type of personality disorder. Symptoms of BPD include not having a sense of who you are, worrying about abandonment, quick mood changes and feeling very intense emotions. Sasha was diagnosed after becoming a mother.

She has two boys, a four-year-old and an 18-month old. She feels her BPD ‘definitely affected motherhood’. What is borderline personality disorder? Borderline personality disorder, also known as emotionally unstable personality disorder, is a serious mental illness that causes the inability to manage emotions effectively.

The disorder makes a person experience very intense emotions, and can affect relationships. A person with BPD may have no sense of who they are, a strong fear of abandonment, frequent mood swings and may embark on reckless or impulsive behaviour.

She tells ‘I can’t cope with a lot of things that I want to be able to cope with. I am very nervous of being alone with my boys as even though I love them beyond compare, I find mothering incredibly draining. ‘Being with them can bring out big feelings which often overwhelm me, completely tiring me out – even if they are positive feelings.

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